Wednesday, February 20, 2008

How to Not Be Annoying

How to Not Be Annoying

  1. Build self confidence. Being insecure can lead to annoying traits. Until you have built your self confidence up don't try too hard.
  2. Break counterproductive habits. If you laugh loudly at everyone's jokes, even if they're not all that funny, read up on how to avoid laughing at inappropriate times. Try a different approach - be genuine and be yourself. If people find you annoying when you're being true to yourself, then you need to find new, more accepting people to be around.
  3. Respect boundaries. Everybody has boundaries - you need to learn what they are and try to avoid crossing them. Boundaries vary widely from culture to culture and even from individual to individual.

    • Do not poke people constantly or tap their heads. In fact, don't touch them at all if they don't like it. Unless it's granted by all means touch them.
    • Mind your own business. Avoid butting into a conversation by (for example) saying, "What are you talking about?" If you hear someone talking about something with another person, and you only catch the last sentence, leave it be.

  4. Be humble. Just because you're confident doesn't mean you have to act like you're better than anyone else. Don't do or say things that might let you appear to be arrogant, like bragging about your wealth or success.

    • Do not correct bad grammar/spelling or inaccuracies of others because most people don't like being corrected.
    • Don't excessively tell people that their beliefs are wrong, gently and nicely mention that you disagree.
    • Don't complain all the time. Remember the world does not revolve around you. If you complain too much, others will find you depressing and avoid you. Read up on how to be optimistic.
    • Learn to listen. Conversation is a two way street. If you're talking constantly, the others will get frustrated and quit trying to communicate with you.

  5. Be conscious of your surroundings dont peek down people's shirts for instance. stand in doorways while having a conversation, driving 20MPH in a 40MPH zone, or if your children are being obnoxious in a public place. Likewise, imposing a bad smell (farting) to the surroundings is interpreted by most to be quite annoying. Be hygienic
  6. Learn to read facial reactions and body movements. Pay attention to the facial expressions and body language of those around you and work to immediately whatever you're doing that is annoying others.
  7. Think of others. For some it is easy, but others, it is not. Try to put yourself in others' shoes and treat others the way you would like to be treated.

this makes me laugh. but its very good advice. I am not the only one who hates when people pat me on the head. +)

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